Online dating. Sex at first sight

The desire to overcome a woman which you like is quite naturally. This is a manifestation of an ancient instinct. In nature the female, not male, makes the final selection. Because the error for it is much more expensive. A man feel painfully, when beloved woman refuse him in the intimacy. The refusal undermines the self-esteem, the status of man, may even plunge into depression. When a woman during the first meeting stays before difficult choices. If she yield a man too quickly, she risks take the “label” of frivolous and dissolute, and even be suspected of the most improper motives. But if she will hold a man at a distance too long, may even lose him. Where is the borderline, that “gold mean”? Not a simple question. Nevertheless, during the traditional methods of dating and relationship it goes without saying. When dating in internet correspondence – it much more complicated.

In this situation it is difficult to determine the depth of the originated sense, the point of transition from romantic relationships to intimate. In the internet we are speaking not with real people, and with virtual personage that consists half of photos, profiles and letters, and half – of your own fantasies and expectations. After several months of lively correspondence it can seem that a person is familiar for you, close and loved, and when the meeting turns out that you got carried away by assumed image, which is simply not exist in reality. Or you met with a woman only from politeness or curiosity, but when you met suddenly skips some spark, the fluid and you understand that this is the one which you search for a lifetime.

Let’s be more specific, a typical situation. You met a russian woman online, correspond for a long time, and then came to visit and hope to spend the night together. Many times you imagine this meeting in your thoughts, and now you want to experience everything in reality. Arriving in another country, you don’t have unlimited reserve of time to pass through all the traditional stages of courtship. Within some days your lady and you
must decide, whether to continue of your relationships or not. Because you’re in a hurry, wanting to seek your consent even for a single intimacy.

We can’t understand why other people do anyway. Your woman needs to get used to your real image, not what drew her fantasy, when you corresponded. And perhaps you should be ready for any developments. Not hurry up. Spend the first meeting on neutral territory and try to communicate so that to learn about each other as much as possible, and not outvoice thundering music in a noisy restaurant. Perhaps you see in her something that did not know when corresponded. And then say goodbye, stay a few hours in solitude, gather together your thoughts and feel all that you got during the meeting. After meet your lady again. Perhaps your desires will be different. The attraction is always mutual and reciprocal. Most likely, she will feel the same as you. Main thing go around this question very soft and inoffensive, without spoiling mood for yourself and without hurting anyone’s feelings