Meet me in Europe this a good idea?

Meet russian women for marriage

I have been corresponding with a Russian woman for about a month. I let her know that I do intend on coming to Russia in the summer of 2010. She has recently asked me to visit her in europe this winter or sooner as she has a traveling visa and can meet me in Europe. we decided on germany. is this a good idea? Also, I really like her and we talk almost every day on the phone is this a typical relationship? I do not want to do the wrong thing and I want to know is this too fast? Is it possible to have a good long-distance relationship like this. I just do not really know what I am doing and I want things to work out right. I am a 40 year old emergency nurse and she is a 36 year old doctor of epidemiology. My friends think I am crazy and I am, about her. I do not want to disappoint her or myself. Any advice would be appreciated. Sincerely,Gene

Hello dear Gene!
Thank you for your letter to us. Frankly speaking it is very difficult to give any advices in such situation. We don’t know anything about your girlfriend and we can’t say for sure if she is spammer or just a normal russian girl. What I would do in such situation? As first variant I would tell her, that first it would be great to meet in her country, because you are curious about it and its culture, traditions. You can say that you would like to spend some days with her in her city, may be to meet some of her friends, relatives. You can say that after the trip to her country you can go for holidays to Germany together. Why can’t you go to Russia earlier than summer 2010? Try to understand that it is very difficult to wait for stranger for almost a year!

On the other hand, we have some examples, when couples first met in Europe and it was the start of strong and happy relations. If you will decide that you are ready to go to Germany, so follow some advices:
1. Don’t send her money for airplane tickets(there are lot’s of airlines, which provide service with electronic tickets, so you can buy them yourself and this way you will be sure that she will not take money and disappear). Also it is a convenient chance to ask her for her passport copy (you will tell that you need it to buy electronic ticket to her)? to be sure that she is real and that she really has visa to Germany or other countries in Europe.

You tell us that you talk by phone almost every day ? it is really very good, it means that she really like you and want to try to build relations with you. It isn’t fast to meet with her in winter ? you will have two months more (till January) to learn her better by phone and by emails.

I am sure that it is possible to have long-time distance relations, but of course only real meeting will show you the reality. I have a friend who started communication like you, after some months of phone calls he came to his girlfriend and after two weeks together they understood that they are ready to build a family. They waited for fiancee visa for 9 months, but now they live happily in America and enjoy their life. I want to say that everything is possible and if you have chance ? you shall try. Of course we can’t guarantee you that you will have happy end, but if you will not try, you will feel sorry for it for the rest of your life. Sure that you will take right decisions and we will be happy to help you with our advices.

Hope to hear from you, sincerely, Ludmila.